[TheForge] Denial won't work -- call 911 if you have symptoms...

[Bruce .]

Thanks.
Fortunately, her speech wasn't much affected -- just a trifle slurred.
Otherwise your advice looks good.
She gets out of the hospital today.
Bruce
NJ


On Thu, Oct 18, 2018 at 2:40 AM jerry Frost <akfrosty at mtaonline.net> wrote:

> You're welcome Bruce, it helped us a lot. Regaining her left hand dexterity
> isn't really an oxymoron. She wants to get her left hand working Right
> doesn't she?
>
> It's been 9 years for me and I still have a little smirk when I smile.
> Makes
> me NOT want to go before a judge.
>
> Good for you Bruce get her snarl up to speed again. You won't have to try,
> for stroke and TBI survivors getting a handle on anger can be a real
> process. Try not to react, she won't be able to help it.
>
> Don't beat around the bush trying not to hurt her feelings when you tell
> her
> things. Be nice but be direct, for example: "Stop playing with your food."
> "your socks don't match," She cant talk anymore, let's go."
>
> We have issues, I never had a very good off switch, not it's all but gone
> entirely. I'll say inappropriate things without realizing it or say
> something I THINK is funny and offend or insult folks.
>
> It's a learning experience for everybody involved, polish up your
> observational skills and put on your learning cap buddy, you're both going
> to need em.
>
> Just being home will make her feel better and improve the healing. Does she
> have a pet? A warm furry laying quietly in your lap makes a HUGE
> difference.
> On some of my bad days I'd doze off and wake up with two dogs and two cats
> sleeping in my lap. They know when you need a little loving and come help
> you.
>
> Good advice Bruce. Having your affairs in order, living will, powers of
> attorney, etc. squared away can keep you out of deep trouble when you
> recover or don't.
>
> My mother didn't fill out a DNR order though she made her whishes plenty
> clear to Shannon and myself. Unfortunately the power of attorney didn't
> include the power to unplug her. Seeing as I'm still alive Shannon couldn't
> make the decision as next of kin it would take both of us so I flew down to
> sign the paper and witness her last 15 minutes.
>
> Living will, powers of attorney, will, DNR if that's your wish, etc.
> Leaving
> it all on your friends or relatives is really painful hard on them.
>
> Be well Brother. We're pulling for you.
>
> Jer
>
> -----Original Message-----
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> [mailto:theforge-bounces at mailman.qth.net] On Behalf Of Bruce .
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> Subject: Re: [TheForge] Denial won't work -- call 911 if you have
> symptoms...
>
> Thanks, Frosty,
> I've just ordered the book.
> She's working diligently to get her left-hand dexterity (an oxymoron if
> I've
> ever seen one) back.  There's still a sag in her face, but her smile is
> almost normal.  Curiously it's her snarl that's suffered the most, but I'm
> sure I'll give her plenty reason to exercise that!
> She would have gone home tonight but was just too tired after an all-day
> wait for a procedure!  So she'll be going home tomorrow.
>
> Which, BTW, brings up another matter all should consider:  Get your
> documents together:  Living Will (a.k.a. Advanced Directive) and Power of
> Attorney.  The former tells everyone what you want done to/for you if
> you're
> incapacitated, and who should make any such decisions.  The latter gives
> someone you trust the ability to handle your finances (which may be only
> while your disabled or at any time at all, depending how it's written).
> (You DON'T want some anonymous court-appointed person acting on your
> behalf.)  We were fortunate that she had these documents in the works and
> we
> were able to get them signed and notarized while in the hospital.
> (The third document, of course, is your will, which needs no explanation.)
> Bruce NJ
>
>
>
>
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